Tuesday, November 16, 2004

It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year...Or Is It?

Many people suffer from the holiday blues during this time of the year. Here is an article to help encourage you this year. Please feel free to print it up and pass it on to your friends or family or anyone who might need some encouragement during this time of the year. Thanks! Stacy


Stacy L .Harp

As the holiday season approaches many of us tend to experience a myriad of feelings. On one hand, we’re excited because of the seasonal festivities of the year. Traditions, faith, hope and love abound. On the other hand, we might find ourselves feeling lonely, discouraged or down because of the amount of stress and expectations that come our way with the holiday’s. If this is you, I want to offer you a few tips for getting through the holidays.

1. It is okay to feel sad, lonely or melancholy during the holidays. There is no rule that says that you have to feel festive or that you have to "put on a happy face". Things happen, and not all memories are happy. Some of us may remember loved ones that have died, or maybe we don’t have good memories of holidays in our homes. Whatever the situation is, know that it is okay to feel sad if you are.

2. Establish realistic goals and expectations for the holiday season. Limit the amount of parties you attend or the gifts you buy. It’s okay to be simple and just give a card. Take the stress off yourself by just being simple.

3. Remember the true reason for the season and reflect on what the holidays are all about. Thank God for your blessings.

4. Limit alcoholic beverages and foods that contain high amounts of sugar because they both enhance feelings of depression.

5. Build new memories and make a new tradition. Live within your means and do something nice for someone who may be less fortunate than you are.

Remember the holidays are only a season and you will be able to get through another year. Spend time with supportive and caring friends and renew old friendships.
Stacy L .Harp is a Pre-licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working in conjunction with the Institute of Advanced Studies. She can be contacted for appointments by calling 714-244-6890 or emailing at